At it’s core Valentines Day is about not only celebrating love, but celebrating the right to love who you choose to love.
There are various stories about St Valentine and how Valentines day actually came about. But I guess the important thing to know is that people didn’t always have the right to love and marry the person of their choosing. People could, and were put to death for defying the edict in the name of war and religion.
There are four different Greek words for love,
Philia – Friendship
Eros – Physical
Agape – Unconditional
In my most humble opinion, a relationship would need all of these versions of love to work. I remember reading a book called The Conversation. The author Hill Harper mentions a woman who says that she just wants a man who won’t cheat. His response was that she was setting the bar pretty low. There is so much more to a relationship. I initially thought the whole interaction to be amusing. However, after some thought I came to the conclusion that in my past relationships that was usually the cause of the breakup. As far as I was concerned, for the most part, everything was great. The conversation was great, sincere emotional encouragement and support was satisfying. The sex…AMAZING. Overall my long term relationships have been happy for the exception of what…the cheating. The Agape was missing.
I am an avid follower of Kim and Kanye, Gabrielle and D. Wade, among others and I don’t miss any episodes of Keeping up with the Kardashians, Being Mary Jane or more recently Covert Affairs. Many people live vicariously though them , or not, via sound bites splattered on Facebook walls and little blue birds. When I see people in love. I look at them with great admiration. I know what it’s like to love someone. It’s not aways easy. It takes a special person to be able to really love someone and really receive love. I don’t care who you are, no matter how rich or how poor. No matter how dark or how light the hue. Love is all the same. When you toss it up we all want to be bathed in that rain.
There are so many people in this world who feel alone and are looking for a friend .
A friend to talk to, confide in, who won’t laugh at your fears. That special person with whom you can share and build your hopes and dreams. Someone who understands and supports you. That one who is more concerned about what they are willing to give than get.
We never know what that looks like until it shows up in our lives.
We all need someone to love. We all need someone to love us beyond our faults, despite our imperfections and our past. Offering an open hand and heart of forgiveness. Healing is a life long process. Life happens daily. Sometimes when we fall down we need someone to pick us up. Help us pick up the pieces. The one who cares enough to look beyond the surface into the soul of what matters. See into our soul.
You smile give the sun permission to set,
Let’s make this a life we won’t forget
I trust my heart in your hands.
Heal me like no one else can
I saw you I fell hard
Loves get out of hell free card
I’ll take your joy I’ll take your sin
Lets go to a place no ones ever been
Let’s go now
Let’s go now
Let’s go now
Let’s go right now
Congratulations to everyone who has found love. HAPPY VALENTINES DAY